Sunday
July 21, 2013
I am writing you on Sunday night from
Neebish island. Sunday is its own day
here in Michigan—the church pews are filled, the WSJ is not delivered, and
families sit around the table to share Sunday brunch. Most Sundays would be similar at our cabin, Grandma
would rock in the rocker her mother had upholstered by hand, turning the volume
up and down unconsciously as her head bobbed in front of Fox news, Brent and I
would work on a 1000 piece puzzle or I might play a round of Hearts with my
Aunts. But this is not a typical Sunday
on Neebish Island. Rather than spend the
days in the throws of creating and remembering six generations of family
traditions, Kelly, Santi, and I nap at the main house and wait for my mom to
return from the hospital. Kelly naps on
the mallard duck couch upholstered, again by hand, by my great Grandma Lovejoy,
I nap with Santi on the porch over the water, each time the water laps against
the rocks we all fall deeper to sleep.
We toggle between believing this is simply
island sleep, island air, island trees that are sending us into daily naps at
5PM and hoping it isn’t a symptom of C-dif, the infection that keeps my
grandmother in the hospital a few more days.
Kelly, with all the optimism of an Enneagram seven is sure none of us
are sick or will get sick and enjoys the afternoon. My nap is interrupted by my sisters calling
for island updates—Kari wants to know if we have been swimming with the May
Flies and Julie wants me to run to the ferry (we have no car), get on line (we
have no internet) and order roller skates so we can show off our T-stops this
weekend in Boulder.
I am watching both my grandmother and
mother age as the hours pass on this first stop of the Santi-dedicated
Sabbatical. My mom can’t keep up. She is trading off with her sisters by
spending the nights in the hospital with their mom. We can’t go help as she is contagious, and
while we didn’t get it when directly exposed, we don’t want to take any chances
now. Our commitment is to our own health
first, then Santi’s, then my relatives.
My mom is so tired, exhausted really, that she has nothing to give Santi
or me in terms of attention. I squeeze
in 15 minutes here and there, I force her to sit in the orange rocking chairs
with me and tell me about her day. She
is so worried and so dead tired. How
will she take care of her mother for the remaining three weeks of the summer?
“I can do shifts, but I can’t do 24/7, I
just can’t,” she declares.
I encourage her to tell her sisters that
she needs weekends off, that she could go to my Great Aunt Fae’s on Monocle
lake, another familiar family home, and spend the weekends to recuperate. I offer to pay for her hotel on Saturday
nights to just get away. Her sister
Linda plans to come this weekend with her grandchildren—who are apparently four times more rambunctious than my brother's daughter, who is like her dad, a daredevil.
I feel sad to be alone on Neebish island
with just Kelly and Santi. I feel more sad
that my mom is so tired. I also feel sad
that my grandmother’s life is visibly coming to an end.
Kelly sits on the floor in front of me working
on a 500-piece puzzle in our cabin.
Santi is asleep on my bed, and my mom, curled up like a little girl at Neebish, went to sleep at 7PM after her hospital shift. I went back to check on her at sunset. She didn’t roll over to look at me. “Please take the phone downstairs. I can’t
talk to anyone,” she whispered. A Nora
Roberts novel lay beside her.
When we left the cabin, the 40-something
year-old neighbor and his 17-year-old son invited us all for a boat ride. Given that we have been sleeping for three
days, how could we say no? We finally
pulled out the famous Meyer yellow and red child’s life jacket, laid Santi on
the fish cleaning wooden stand, zipped him in, climbed down into the boat, and
entered the channel to watch the moon rise.
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